Monday, October 8, 2012

simple passions - fuck patriarchy

It's pretty fucking simple, when I narrow it down the foundational feeling that causes me to nearly burst with passion: what I want is to be comrades with female embodied people. It is likely that they have knowledge I do not, and I think it is important to listen, but they are not better than me. The thought of us being on par is what stimulates me. It's a common diversion away from the important issue of imbalance within the world, and the more power and attention men are granted, when it is mentioned that, if we are really shooting for equality then why are there all these women particular things; women's studies, women's shelters, women's music festivals. This was a struggle for me to answer before, and the realization that it is so simple now is telling. I now more clearly understand the need for education, for my speaking out and for becoming involved in the fight to stop men's violence against women and men. 1.To me, it is encouraging that I changed, and that now I can clearly see that the studies of most school subjects come from a white, male perspective (author and teacher) or are conditioned within a patriarchal culture, and thus feel intimidated to go against or indoctrinated within, and in praise of, a way of life that systematically prioritizes men's needs. 2. Why are there more shelters for women, or why are they woman specified? Is it because women are abused by men? There are shelters that are men only, and there likely may be a need to separate genders, maybe because many women would not feel safe already sharing quarters with men, due to the threat men frequently pose to women and the huge numbers of women who have suffered assault, harassment and torment from men. The need for shelters for men to me reflects the failure of capitalism, leaving some out on the street, cold and hungry, while some eat fancy dinners in lavish settings, prepared by hired servants. This cruel imbalanced system maintains that if you just work hard, you too can live the "American Dream." Individualistic, patriotic zeal ignites a person's mind who has put in the time and lived comfortably, leading them to worship america as the best and proclaim that anyone can do it if they put their mind to it. This is especially touching and patriotically invigorating to people when there is an "underdog" tale, and it is taken often as proof that this is truly a, or THE, land of opportunity, of course ignoring factors such as white, male, hetero, and/or class privilege.
The point of women's shelters? Because a lot of times, women need protection from men. Is this because women are weak and men are strong? Men, presented with an ideal to live up to that a man is physically strong, emotionally detached (being "emotional" is viewed as weak) and in control (not just of himself, but others too; the more control, the more "manly") end up being out of touch with other human beings. And in his continual mode of conquest (unconscious or not) he will much more easily devalue the life, body and spirit of the women and girls who suffer from his physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. He feels entitled, which no one ever is, to any aspect of her he chooses and without her consent, and in a man's misguided attempts at living a worthwhile life, he chases power and at the cost to the lives of women. So men beat, kill and rape women in fucked up searches for power. I started to write out "empowerment" but I feel a huge difference between empowerment and power. To me, power isn't necessarily bad, and I supposed empowerment could be, because you could be entrusted to a certain position by stepping on the backs and putting down another.

I think it's because from early on, it is the boys who are sent messages that tough is a physical, intimidating thing, that we live in a competitive world where the toughest one will get the job, get the girl (and boys and men are told that indeed, they should find romantic interest in female bodied people, and be the superior, patriarch, maintaining the position of power, dominating their (unequal)partner and running the family.)

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